By: Andrew Parker
At most Christian colleges, particularly those in the Council for Christian Colleges and Universities, sexual acts outside the bounds of marriage are prohibited. Exactly what do “sexual acts” include? Well, that question has become increasingly difficult to answer given the widening variety of thoughts, opinions and cultural understandings that surround the creation and implementation of such policies.
Often, schools like ours use broader terms like ‘sexual behavior” or “sexual misconduct.” While using a term that is more enveloping has its challenges, it can create an environment where many questions are raised about what exactly such a term covers, breed profitable formal and informal discussions, and cause those in the community to think carefully about their actions, how those actions might be perceived and the many potential outcomes.
Numerous types of sexual behavior are noted in the IWU 2011-2012 Student Handbook. Some items addressed are actual acts, while others are actions that could possibly be perceived as sexual in nature. For example, the Handbook identifies very specific acts such as adultery and premarital sex (p. 18), but also uses the term “sexual misconduct” (p. 27) to address a variety of other actions that could involve actually engaging in a sexual act or simply something that has “the appearance of indiscreet or sexual behavior” (p. 27).
The Handbook is by no means perfect, and not everything in it has been chiseled in stone, so to speak. In fact, the Handbook is a “living” document, one that should, and does, change over time. The topic of sexual misconduct in the Student Handbook was raised earlier this semester in a February article by a Sojourn reporter; he pointed out an area where such change might be needed. The broader evangelical community has, for far too long, viewed sexual promiscuity and misconduct as happening between a male and female and oft chosen to pretend as though same-sex relationships do not exist. Popular culture has changed, and this change has been evidenced within the Christian community; the term “romantic relationship” is no longer simply synonymous with a heterosexual relationship. Given such cultural shifts and understandings, and the fact that the Handbook is a “living” document, it is imperative that policies are revisited to make sure they are not targeting or ignoring one type of behavior, but rather addressing them all. Perhaps, as noted by the reporter in the aforementioned article, utilizing more gender-neutral terms in certain polices could assist in attending to this issue.
Now, having ventured down that path, let’s explore another for a moment. While dialogue about what constitutes sexual behavior” or “sexual misconduct” is valuable for discussions and even necessary to ensure that people in various circumstances are treated fairly, it is likewise important that we not get caught up in all of the details. We must be careful not to define everything so precisely that the result is a legalistic approach to certain policies. (If there are current policies that are broaching the bounds of legalism, they should merit review.) We must keep a bigger picture in mind of the standard of purity that the Scriptures call us to. It is true, we live within a cultural context and that must be taken into account on various levels. However, in other ways, the purity that God calls us to supersedes specific points in time and places in history; it is, in essence, timeless.
So, what does purity mean? That opens up a new discussion, one that will require more time and space than this article can provide, but one that is closely connected to sexual misconduct. Perhaps it even provides a better avenue to approach the concept of sexual misconduct. Instead of seeking to define sexual misconduct in order to arrive at an understanding of what constitutes purity, perhaps we should seek to define purity in order to understand what might fall within the bounds of sexual misconduct. This seems to follow the line of thinking identified in Philippians 4:8 (New Revised Standard Version): “Finally, beloved, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is pleasing, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence and if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”


